Books by Nil Gün

    

The Shaman Within: The Alchemy of Emotions

Which Nil Gün authored based on depth psychology, can also be classified as a philosophical work. In this book, the psychology that governs a human being (the individual) and the philosophy that governs the universe (the whole) is so interconnected that just as you think you are exploring the individual Nil Gün takes you on a journey into the depths of the universe. The Shaman Within: The Alchemy of Emotions makes us thoroughly question the way we perceive ourselves and others; it reminds us, in every sentence, that we are a part of the universe.

NLP-Neuro Linguistic Programming: A Guide to Using Your Mind

Learning and applying the magical method known as NLP is to shape life the way you want instead of leaving it to chance and coincidences. NLP is a way of reconfiguring the way the mental processes work in order to use both the conscious and the subconscious more effectively. NLP will provide immediate results; you can reduce the time required for a process that normally takes months, even years (for example, getting rid of a phobia), down to a few hours, even minutes.

With NLP: You can get rid of phobias that hinder you. You can change damaging habits. You can learn techniques to help motivate you.

Once you grasp the fundamentals of NLP, you can use it in all aspects of your life. This is because success and happiness are associated with a specific structure and pattern of thinking. And this can be learned by anyone. Learn to have your mind work for you. Gain control of your mind-body system.

The Book of Happiness: Happiness is a Choice 

• Would you have picked yourself as a friend or as a trustworthy companion?
• If you were a member of the opposite sex, would you have picked yourself-the way you are now-as a spouse ?

If you don’t like your sincere responses to these questions, you hold the key to turning each response to a “yes.” You possess this power and ability. You only need to be prepared to put in the time and effort. I know, I know, everyone gives you advice. And, to prove your personality, you disregard most. Maybe the words in this book will have the same effect on you; after skimming through it, you’ll simply set it aside. The choice is yours. Leave it if you wish, or read it only to forget.

If you wish, read it with scorn and delay living, finding “valid” excuses for not heeding my suggestions. If you wish, just reflect on it. If you wish, think about it and apply it .

What do you have to lose-except your unhappiness and laziness?

In this book from Kuraldisi Publishing’s Personal Growth Series, the author discusses ways for the person to face and make peace with the self, and find happiness as an informed individual. Nil Gün’s book is almost a manual for achieving happiness…

You can also obtain motivational CD such as Happiness Starts Within, Happiness is a Choice, and Being a Happy Couple, all part of Kuraldisi Education and Consultancy’s Motivational CD Series .

Shadows of the Past

We experience life through emotions. Few of us, perhaps none of us, have grown up in healthy, much less ideal, familial environments. But we cannot improve ourselves if we keep putting the blame on the past.

By assuming responsibility for our reactions to the events life throws at us, we can find within us the power to change. And this is only possible by understanding the language of, and messages conveyed by, our emotions and by freeing ourselves of the past. What a nightmare it is to realize that we have been living a “wrong” life and that this is the reason for our unhappiness. Everyone’s most basic desire is to be happy. The nun or the hooker, or the wise or the murderer, all wish to be happy. And those who are not happy feel angry at life. Yet the secret to a happy life is very simple: there is none. There are only facts we refuse to see. Whether we wish to be lost in the shadows of the past or to capture the light of life is our choice. We just need to be bold enough to clean up our emotional trash, and to find internal freedom.

 Unconventional and Beyond

There is little difference between women who believe in Shari’a (Islamic Law) and women who dress scantly to show off their sexuality. This is because both perceive themselves as sexual objects: one by covering, the other by exposing herself. One is the product of patriarchal, religious dominance while the other is the product of patriarchal, capitalist dominance. Let us not be victims of perverted dogmas but be the “masters” of free thought. A mind that explores is a free mind. Sex is a biological drive. Sexuality is the physical expression of love. Love, on the other hand, is not a drive, but a level of consciousness. It is a learned concept that needs effort to learn. Knowing love begins with loving, and being at peace with, the self. Individuals and societies that regard sex-the bodily expression of love-as bad, naughty, or sinful are destined to backwardness and unhappiness.

My Pounds, My Diets and I: The Healthy Way to Lose Weight

Dieting: a lucrative industry dominating especially the lives of women. Every magazine cover announces yet another diet. Diet club membership and consumption of diet books, magazines, pills and packaged foodstuffs increases daily. This is an industry that rakes in billions of dollars each year. Women fight with their lipids in the fashion and matchmaking markets where the rules are set by men. Frustrated by the inequality between the sexes and unable to get their fair share of freedom in life, they vent their anger by overindulging. They then turn to dieting to solve problems caused by their suppressed anger. Women always pay the piper, simply because they are born as such. This book discusses the fiscal and spiritual damages born of diets, and shows you, with concrete examples, how to free yourself of diets and to reach your goals. It demonstrates that the diet trap is a self-esteem issue. We predict that this book will appeal more to women readers. If you are a male reader, however, please allow us to congratulate you first. Then, you should congratulate yourself for having acknowledged your own problems and your issues with understanding women.

 Quit Smoking without Gaining a Pound
 
In this book not only will you understand the nature of nicotine addiction, but you will also learn ways to cope with pitfalls along the way to quitting-without gaining a pound.

Sales and Marketing Through NLP

Classical sales techniques based on appearances cause one to become distanced from oneself. Within a few years, the effects of this distancing are felt so acutely that the person is sucked into a black hole of loneliness. Yet it is possible for those in this field to be at peace with themselves, happy and fulfilled, and also to increase their productivity-thus having staying power in the field. This is what this book will show you how to do. You do not need appearances to sell/market a product.

Your job is to impress people. You give sales and marketing your all, but, as I’m sure you are aware, while some days you get perfect results, on other days your efforts do not seem to get you anywhere.

Everyday you say the same things; you market the same product or service. Why the different results, then?

Knowing the last little detail about your product / service and being able to regurgitate all this will not make you a master of the art of marketing.

Marketing is about changing the viewpoint of a person through logic, information, emotional connection, language use, charisma and a feeling of trust. The goal is to make the person imagine him or herself in a situation that provides positive feelings, and to give him or her the motivation to realize this dream.

 How Women and Men Can Connect with Each Other

• Why are we able to immediately bond with some people, while not much liking others?
• Why is a mom or a dad closer to one child than the rest of the kids?
• How come kids raised in the same family make radically different choices in life?
• Why are we unable to comprehend the friendship of two people who appear to be polar opposites? Why, despite all their sincerity, are we not able to warm up to some people?

When you enter a bookstore, there are hundreds of books on communication, and relations with others. But this book is special because it is the first to look at the underlying character and personality issues behind men-women relationships.

Problems in relations with the opposite sex do not simply arise from the fact that women are from Venus while men are from Mars. Some couples themselves can’t make heads or tails of cold spells between them, even when there is no tangible problem in their relationship.

In this book, not only will you gain deeper insight into men-women relationships, but also understand the basic dynamics at work in human relationships in business or social spheres, and make important headway in understanding yourself and others.

 Life Favors the Bold

Cowards don’t like the brave. The brave remind them of their cowardice.

We are afraid to love; we fear we will get nothing for the feelings we show-feelings that we think are love.

We are afraid of success because we were unable to overcome challenges at a time when we thought we had success.

We are afraid to express our personality because as kids we were penalized for being ourselves and rewarded for wearing the masks our parents wanted us to.

Bravery is not the absence of fear; it is being able to move forward despite fear.

Bravery is being able to take risks and act in the face of odds that seem to be stacked against us; it is being able to accomplish what we want.

Challenges are helping hands that whip you into shape; they increase your will to succeed. Believe me, if everything you wanted were handed to you on a golden plate, you wouldn’t enjoy it.

Challenges are the keys to unleashing the power within you. It gives great satisfaction to surmount challenges.

You only need to free the brave in you, and leave the rest to life.

Truths and Lies

Most people don’t know about alcoholism; even though one in every six families in Turkey is affected by it. Even though 60 percent of children who grow in the presence of an alcoholic parent become an alcoholic themselves. Even though alcohol addiction is passed on from generation to generation.

Most alcoholics don’t accept the fact that they are addicted. Even implying that an alcoholic has an addiction problem will thoroughly irritate him or her. Such a response is an indication of addiction.

Alcoholism is an illness of denial.

Alcoholism has little to do with how often, how much, or when you drink. You may drink every day, or once in a blue moon. You may only drink during “happy hours;” but when you do, can you drop it before you get to the last drop?

• If you usually drink every day, can you go for three months with just two glasses?
• If the person you love is addicted to alcohol;
• If you are addicted to alcohol;
• If you say you are a social drinker, but feel deep inside that you may have an alcohol problem, read on.

Heroin: From a Fake Paradise to Real Hell

This book will take you inside the head of heroin addicts to expose their pain, their fight to escape the drug’s grasp, and their family structures. These people, rejected by society and disregarded by politicians, are in fact our kids, our parents, and our siblings. How easy it is to condemn and to reject them instead of trying to understand and help. They are vagabonds afraid of feeling in this “normal,” neurotic society of ours that is afraid of thinking. In a society where thinking is an offense, they are guilty of feeling. They are people with “emotional disabilities” within a society with “thinking disabilities.